Michael Borovikov
Anne Tam
Birth Order Project
Note: Both group members are first children.
Michael Borovikov has a 3-year-old half brother and a 7-year-old half sister.
Anne Tam has a little sister that is 14 years old.
3.
a. Both group members agree that first children:
Commonly strive to help other people
Believe they should gain and hold superiority over other children
Like being right.
Keep parents and others attention by conforming.
Are usually competent and responsible.
Strive to please others.
Both group members agree that the youngest child:
Behaves like an only child: is pampered and spoiled, is the center of attention, often refuses to cooperate, relies on help from other people rather than their own efforts.
Becomes the boss of the family by getting their own way.
Thinks they are inferior, and try to compete and overtake other siblings.
May not be taken seriously.
Feels smallest and weakest.
b. Both group members believe that first children:
Do not misbehave when they do not have their parent’s attention.
Do not become discouraged if they do not have competent or responsible behavior.
c. Anne and Michael believe that the first child is the “good guy” in the family, and likes helping people out as well as being responsible and pleasing others. The first child remains the nicest because they believe it is the best way to keep parents and family members attention. The Youngest child feels that the oldest child and the parents have more superiority and are supposed to make decisions and do things for them.
The oldest child normally does not misbehave to get attention unless they are an only child. If the oldest child does not have an experienced or responsible personality, they do not normally become discouraged; instead, they misbehave.
5. Michael Borovikov’s birth order characteristics may have been altered by the birth of a half sister and half brother when he was 10 and 14 years old. The birth of siblings late in someone’s life is known to reset the facts about the birth order since there is a large age difference between the first and second child (ten years). Anne Tam’s sister is only 2-3 years younger than Anne, and, therefore, could have a different relationship with Anne than Michael would have with his siblings.
Tuesday, March 3, 2009
birth order
Michael Borovikov
Anne Tam
Birth Order Project
Note: Both group members are first children.
Michael Borovikov has a 3-year-old half brother and a 7-year-old half sister.
Anne Tam has a little sister that is 14 years old.
2.
A. The only child is spoiled early on, and gets used to having everything they want. This child learns to control their parents since they are the only child that the parents care about at the time.
B. The first child is pampered and becomes used to being the center of attention, until they experience dethronement of this attention when the second child is born. The first child is then obliged to maintain superiority over the next children and help their parents to keep as much attention from them as possible.
C. The second child gets divided attention from their parents because the first child keeps some of it. The second child may misbehave or rebel to bring attention to themselves. They are in constant competition with the first child, often exhibiting opposite traits to overtake the first child.
D. The middle child is lonely because they feel left out, having no rights or privileges that the first child and not as much attention as last child has. Parents naturally focus their attention on the first child’s issues, such as college, and the youngest child’s development to pay enough attention to the middle child.
E. The youngest child is the least capable, therefore relies on everyone else to do things for them, since all the older siblings are more intelligent. The youngest child may not be taken seriously, because the older children’s problems are bigger and more important.
3.
a. Both group members agree that first children:
Commonly strive to help other people
Believe they should gain and hold superiority over other children
Like being right.
Keep parents and others attention by conforming.
Are usually competent and responsible.
Strive to please others.
Both group members agree that the youngest child:
Behaves like an only child: is pampered and spoiled, is the center of attention, often refuses to cooperate, relies on help from other people rather than their own efforts.
Becomes the boss of the family by getting their own way.
Thinks they are inferior, and try to compete and overtake other siblings.
May not be taken seriously.
Feels smallest and weakest.
b. Both group members believe that first children:
Do not misbehave when they do not have their parent’s attention.
Do not become discouraged if they do not have competent or responsible behavior.
c. Anne and Michael believe that the first child is the “good guy” in the family, and likes helping people out as well as being responsible and pleasing others. The first child remains the nicest because they believe it is the best way to keep parents and family members attention. The Youngest child feels that the oldest child and the parents have more superiority and are supposed to make decisions and do things for them.
The oldest child normally does not misbehave to get attention unless they are an only child. If the oldest child does not have an experienced or responsible personality, they do not normally become discouraged; instead, they misbehave.
4) No, my group member does not share any common family experiences or issues that may or may not have impacted our birth order characteristics. However, we still share many characteristics of being a first child, and opinions about our younger sibling(s).
5. Michael Borovikov’s birth order characteristics may have been altered by the birth of a half sister and half brother when he was 10 and 14 years old. The birth of siblings late in someone’s life is known to reset the facts about the birth order since there is a large age difference between the first and second child (ten years). Anne Tam’s sister is only 2-3 years younger than Anne, and, therefore, could have a different relationship with Anne than Michael would have with his siblings.
6) We feel the advantages of knowing about birth order and the impact on an individual’s personality are we know how to treat young children depending on their birth order position. We would also know why children behave the way they do and how we could correct it or guide their behavior.
7) We feel the disadvantages of knowing about birth order and the impact on family dynamics are that we might over think what we know, and we might treat children differently because of their birth order. I think it is good to know how to treat children according to their birth order so they do not feel left out or neglected, but if we treat them solely on what we know about their birth order, it might not be very good.
8)The legitimate criticisms of determining personality according to one’s birth order are that they aren’t always accurate. Everyone has their own personality, and even though they follow some of the birth order characteristics, they probably don’t follow all of them. External factors can also have an effect on a child’s personality depending on the type of parents they have or the conditions that they live in, etc.
9) Overall, we agree with the theories related to birth order for us and our family members because we fit many of the birth order characteristics, and we also agree that our siblings fit many of the characteristics for their birth order.
Anne Tam
Birth Order Project
Note: Both group members are first children.
Michael Borovikov has a 3-year-old half brother and a 7-year-old half sister.
Anne Tam has a little sister that is 14 years old.
2.
A. The only child is spoiled early on, and gets used to having everything they want. This child learns to control their parents since they are the only child that the parents care about at the time.
B. The first child is pampered and becomes used to being the center of attention, until they experience dethronement of this attention when the second child is born. The first child is then obliged to maintain superiority over the next children and help their parents to keep as much attention from them as possible.
C. The second child gets divided attention from their parents because the first child keeps some of it. The second child may misbehave or rebel to bring attention to themselves. They are in constant competition with the first child, often exhibiting opposite traits to overtake the first child.
D. The middle child is lonely because they feel left out, having no rights or privileges that the first child and not as much attention as last child has. Parents naturally focus their attention on the first child’s issues, such as college, and the youngest child’s development to pay enough attention to the middle child.
E. The youngest child is the least capable, therefore relies on everyone else to do things for them, since all the older siblings are more intelligent. The youngest child may not be taken seriously, because the older children’s problems are bigger and more important.
3.
a. Both group members agree that first children:
Commonly strive to help other people
Believe they should gain and hold superiority over other children
Like being right.
Keep parents and others attention by conforming.
Are usually competent and responsible.
Strive to please others.
Both group members agree that the youngest child:
Behaves like an only child: is pampered and spoiled, is the center of attention, often refuses to cooperate, relies on help from other people rather than their own efforts.
Becomes the boss of the family by getting their own way.
Thinks they are inferior, and try to compete and overtake other siblings.
May not be taken seriously.
Feels smallest and weakest.
b. Both group members believe that first children:
Do not misbehave when they do not have their parent’s attention.
Do not become discouraged if they do not have competent or responsible behavior.
c. Anne and Michael believe that the first child is the “good guy” in the family, and likes helping people out as well as being responsible and pleasing others. The first child remains the nicest because they believe it is the best way to keep parents and family members attention. The Youngest child feels that the oldest child and the parents have more superiority and are supposed to make decisions and do things for them.
The oldest child normally does not misbehave to get attention unless they are an only child. If the oldest child does not have an experienced or responsible personality, they do not normally become discouraged; instead, they misbehave.
4) No, my group member does not share any common family experiences or issues that may or may not have impacted our birth order characteristics. However, we still share many characteristics of being a first child, and opinions about our younger sibling(s).
5. Michael Borovikov’s birth order characteristics may have been altered by the birth of a half sister and half brother when he was 10 and 14 years old. The birth of siblings late in someone’s life is known to reset the facts about the birth order since there is a large age difference between the first and second child (ten years). Anne Tam’s sister is only 2-3 years younger than Anne, and, therefore, could have a different relationship with Anne than Michael would have with his siblings.
6) We feel the advantages of knowing about birth order and the impact on an individual’s personality are we know how to treat young children depending on their birth order position. We would also know why children behave the way they do and how we could correct it or guide their behavior.
7) We feel the disadvantages of knowing about birth order and the impact on family dynamics are that we might over think what we know, and we might treat children differently because of their birth order. I think it is good to know how to treat children according to their birth order so they do not feel left out or neglected, but if we treat them solely on what we know about their birth order, it might not be very good.
8)The legitimate criticisms of determining personality according to one’s birth order are that they aren’t always accurate. Everyone has their own personality, and even though they follow some of the birth order characteristics, they probably don’t follow all of them. External factors can also have an effect on a child’s personality depending on the type of parents they have or the conditions that they live in, etc.
9) Overall, we agree with the theories related to birth order for us and our family members because we fit many of the birth order characteristics, and we also agree that our siblings fit many of the characteristics for their birth order.
Thursday, February 19, 2009
china
Anne Tam
4th Hour
February 19, 2009
Transportation
1) Double Decker Buses were first introduced in Hong Kong in 1949 by Kowloon Motor Bus. The double decker buses are limited to a length of 12 meters. There are more than 5,000 double decker buses running in Hong Kong.
2) Bicycles are also another way to get around China. They aren’t expensive, and it can give you a lot of exercise. It also is faster than cars or taxis when there is a lot of traffic, and it is easy to use.
3) Subway/Train: The subway is a underground train that runs from city to city in China. You scan your train card through a machine, and you get on the subway. It is an easy and fast way of transportation and only takes a couple minutes to get from your starting point to your destination.
4) Walking: Walking is the simplest form of transportation in China. The places are really close together, making it easy to walk from place to place. It is also free, and you would get exercise from walking to your destinations.
5) Motor Bikes: Motorized bicycles, motorcycles and other motorized vehicles are growing and it is quickly replacing the bicycle. You can see their grwoth in numbers with each visit. They come in many shapes, sizes and forms. You will see the strangest motorized motorized vehicles in both cities and the country-side.
Sources:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Double-decker_bus
http://www.chinese-culture.net/html/china_public_transport.html
http://www.chinaunique.com/business/transit.htm
4th Hour
February 19, 2009
Transportation
1) Double Decker Buses were first introduced in Hong Kong in 1949 by Kowloon Motor Bus. The double decker buses are limited to a length of 12 meters. There are more than 5,000 double decker buses running in Hong Kong.
2) Bicycles are also another way to get around China. They aren’t expensive, and it can give you a lot of exercise. It also is faster than cars or taxis when there is a lot of traffic, and it is easy to use.
3) Subway/Train: The subway is a underground train that runs from city to city in China. You scan your train card through a machine, and you get on the subway. It is an easy and fast way of transportation and only takes a couple minutes to get from your starting point to your destination.
4) Walking: Walking is the simplest form of transportation in China. The places are really close together, making it easy to walk from place to place. It is also free, and you would get exercise from walking to your destinations.
5) Motor Bikes: Motorized bicycles, motorcycles and other motorized vehicles are growing and it is quickly replacing the bicycle. You can see their grwoth in numbers with each visit. They come in many shapes, sizes and forms. You will see the strangest motorized motorized vehicles in both cities and the country-side.
Sources:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Double-decker_bus
http://www.chinese-culture.net/html/china_public_transport.html
http://www.chinaunique.com/business/transit.htm
Wednesday, February 18, 2009
Anne Tam
3rd Hour
February 18, 2009
The Masks We Wear
1) The masks I wear are the mask of happiness, and calmness. Other then when I am at home, I am always “wearing” the mask of happiness. I do this because I do not want others to know if I am upset because then they will feel bad, and I dislike it when people feel bad for me. I also “wear” the mask of calmness because I do not like showing any emotion besides happiness outside of my house.
2) What contributes to me wearing different “masks” is my relationship with the person. For example, my parents, I do not really have to wear a mask. I show my true self to them, no matter how mean or hostile I am because I do not care what they think of me, but with my friends, I usually wear a happiness mask. It also depends on how close I am with the person. I tend to show more of my true self, however not completely, if I am closer to the person.
3) Yes, there are differences between the way I want to be seen by my parents and by my friends. It is this way because I am not really that close with my parents, and that makes me not care how they see me. I feel like I don’t have to try to be nice, or make them like me, so I don’t really wear a mask around my parents, I can just be myself. Around my friends however, I feel like I have to be nicer and happier just because I feel like they won’t like me as much if I acted the way I did around my parents around them.
4) Yes, I wear a certain mask at school, and in the classroom, but they do not change from activity to activity, or class to class. I keep a happy and calm mask on whenever I am in school. To me, I feel like school life and home life are two different things. All the emotions I feel at home, no matter how sad or mad I am, when I come to school, I am happy. I think it is because I do not want people to know I am upset, so when I am at school, I am happy and if something is wrong, I pretend that everything is perfect.
5) Yes, I reveal different masks to different friends. I feel like the friends closer to me know the real me, and I “wear” less masks around them because they have known me for so long, and I feel like even if I am not happy 24/7, they will still like me. The friends that I am not so close with, or am just acquaintances with, I “wear” the most masks around them, mostly the happy mask. I am afraid that if I show my real self, then they will not like me.
6) Yes, my mask changes for members of the opposite sex. I think around males, I am more awkward and giddy. Around females, I am just happy. I think this is because people always want to make the opposite sex like them, even if they have a significant other. I also change my ask for people of different ages because I act more mature and nice when I am around adults and/or people older than I am. However, I do not change my mask for different race, religion, etc.
7) My masks are reshaped from day to day depending on my feelings and emotions. I think that if I am tired or something happened throughout the day, I am less happy towards my not-so-close friends, and more hostile towards my closest friends. The weather also affects my masks. I feel more happy when the weather is dark and gloomy, then when it is sunny and bright.
8) My concept of the “ideal” mask is to be happy all the time when I am with my friends, no matter how close or not close I am to them. I am striving to attain that “persona” because it would make it more fair to all my friends that are closer to me, and so they don’t have to feel my hostility when I am feeling a little upset.
3rd Hour
February 18, 2009
The Masks We Wear
1) The masks I wear are the mask of happiness, and calmness. Other then when I am at home, I am always “wearing” the mask of happiness. I do this because I do not want others to know if I am upset because then they will feel bad, and I dislike it when people feel bad for me. I also “wear” the mask of calmness because I do not like showing any emotion besides happiness outside of my house.
2) What contributes to me wearing different “masks” is my relationship with the person. For example, my parents, I do not really have to wear a mask. I show my true self to them, no matter how mean or hostile I am because I do not care what they think of me, but with my friends, I usually wear a happiness mask. It also depends on how close I am with the person. I tend to show more of my true self, however not completely, if I am closer to the person.
3) Yes, there are differences between the way I want to be seen by my parents and by my friends. It is this way because I am not really that close with my parents, and that makes me not care how they see me. I feel like I don’t have to try to be nice, or make them like me, so I don’t really wear a mask around my parents, I can just be myself. Around my friends however, I feel like I have to be nicer and happier just because I feel like they won’t like me as much if I acted the way I did around my parents around them.
4) Yes, I wear a certain mask at school, and in the classroom, but they do not change from activity to activity, or class to class. I keep a happy and calm mask on whenever I am in school. To me, I feel like school life and home life are two different things. All the emotions I feel at home, no matter how sad or mad I am, when I come to school, I am happy. I think it is because I do not want people to know I am upset, so when I am at school, I am happy and if something is wrong, I pretend that everything is perfect.
5) Yes, I reveal different masks to different friends. I feel like the friends closer to me know the real me, and I “wear” less masks around them because they have known me for so long, and I feel like even if I am not happy 24/7, they will still like me. The friends that I am not so close with, or am just acquaintances with, I “wear” the most masks around them, mostly the happy mask. I am afraid that if I show my real self, then they will not like me.
6) Yes, my mask changes for members of the opposite sex. I think around males, I am more awkward and giddy. Around females, I am just happy. I think this is because people always want to make the opposite sex like them, even if they have a significant other. I also change my ask for people of different ages because I act more mature and nice when I am around adults and/or people older than I am. However, I do not change my mask for different race, religion, etc.
7) My masks are reshaped from day to day depending on my feelings and emotions. I think that if I am tired or something happened throughout the day, I am less happy towards my not-so-close friends, and more hostile towards my closest friends. The weather also affects my masks. I feel more happy when the weather is dark and gloomy, then when it is sunny and bright.
8) My concept of the “ideal” mask is to be happy all the time when I am with my friends, no matter how close or not close I am to them. I am striving to attain that “persona” because it would make it more fair to all my friends that are closer to me, and so they don’t have to feel my hostility when I am feeling a little upset.
Sunday, February 15, 2009
alans homework
Alan Yee
3rd hour
February 15, 2009
Smart Choices for Lasting Energy
Usually when you eat, the food give you energy and satisfy your hunger. But when do you need energy the most? At 3:00 p.m. Usually between the breakfast, lunch and dinner hours, people tend to get hungry. They don’t eat big meals, but they go for snacks. Most convenient snacks like pretzels and jelly beans, satisfy your hunger, but only for a little while because they consist mainly of simple carbohydrates that are digested quickly, and they make your blood sugar and energy levels go up and down quickly. If you’re in need of a quick snack, pick something that is high in nutrients and are digested more slowly, like whole soybeans, because they make you feel more satisfied and they give you energy for longer periods of time. So if you’re ever hungry between the main meals of the day, remember to look for foods with protein, fiber and healthy fats. They tend to give you more energy and are more filling than convenient snacks.
3rd hour
February 15, 2009
Smart Choices for Lasting Energy
Usually when you eat, the food give you energy and satisfy your hunger. But when do you need energy the most? At 3:00 p.m. Usually between the breakfast, lunch and dinner hours, people tend to get hungry. They don’t eat big meals, but they go for snacks. Most convenient snacks like pretzels and jelly beans, satisfy your hunger, but only for a little while because they consist mainly of simple carbohydrates that are digested quickly, and they make your blood sugar and energy levels go up and down quickly. If you’re in need of a quick snack, pick something that is high in nutrients and are digested more slowly, like whole soybeans, because they make you feel more satisfied and they give you energy for longer periods of time. So if you’re ever hungry between the main meals of the day, remember to look for foods with protein, fiber and healthy fats. They tend to give you more energy and are more filling than convenient snacks.
Sunday, February 8, 2009
defense mechanisms
Anne Tam
3rd hour
February 8, 2009
Behavior Signals of Defense Mechanisms
Observation 1
-The Defense Mechanism that Subject 1 used was displacement. The words and/or behavior signals that led me to think this was the subject got mad for failing a math test, and she took it out on one of her friends. She used harsh words towards her friend, and even when her friend tried to make her feel better, the subject was very blunt and angry. She was also gripping her books very tightly and stomping up the stairs.
Observation 2
-The Defense Mechanism that Subject 2 used was displacement and undoing. One of my friends was mad, and took it out on her boyfriend. Later she realized what she did, and she tried to make it up to him by taking him out to dinner and a movie. The words and behavior that she used that led me to think this was that she was being very nice to her boyfriend after she realized she was being mean to him by saying nice things to him, and giving him a lot of affection.
Analysis
1. No, I do not think they were aware that they were using a defense mechanism because I do not think they know about defense mechanisms. Also, when you are angry about something, usually people do not notice that they are using any kind of defense mechanism. However, if they know about defense mechanisms, I think that they might know they are using them because ever since I learned about them, I have been noticing when I use them and which one I am using.
2. For observation one, I think the use of the defense mechanism had a negative effect because of her using displacement, it made her friends very unhappy that she was taking out her anger on her. For observation two, I think the use of the defense mechanism (undoing) had a positive effect because it made her boyfriend happy again, however, I think that if she uses it all the time, then it would soon start to have a negative effect because her boyfriend would get sick of her always getting mad at him, then making it up to him.
3rd hour
February 8, 2009
Behavior Signals of Defense Mechanisms
Observation 1
-The Defense Mechanism that Subject 1 used was displacement. The words and/or behavior signals that led me to think this was the subject got mad for failing a math test, and she took it out on one of her friends. She used harsh words towards her friend, and even when her friend tried to make her feel better, the subject was very blunt and angry. She was also gripping her books very tightly and stomping up the stairs.
Observation 2
-The Defense Mechanism that Subject 2 used was displacement and undoing. One of my friends was mad, and took it out on her boyfriend. Later she realized what she did, and she tried to make it up to him by taking him out to dinner and a movie. The words and behavior that she used that led me to think this was that she was being very nice to her boyfriend after she realized she was being mean to him by saying nice things to him, and giving him a lot of affection.
Analysis
1. No, I do not think they were aware that they were using a defense mechanism because I do not think they know about defense mechanisms. Also, when you are angry about something, usually people do not notice that they are using any kind of defense mechanism. However, if they know about defense mechanisms, I think that they might know they are using them because ever since I learned about them, I have been noticing when I use them and which one I am using.
2. For observation one, I think the use of the defense mechanism had a negative effect because of her using displacement, it made her friends very unhappy that she was taking out her anger on her. For observation two, I think the use of the defense mechanism (undoing) had a positive effect because it made her boyfriend happy again, however, I think that if she uses it all the time, then it would soon start to have a negative effect because her boyfriend would get sick of her always getting mad at him, then making it up to him.
Monday, February 2, 2009
short story
Have you ever been reckless on the roads and it got you into an accident? Well that was what happened to me at the start of this year. On the night of January 6, 2009, my sister, Amy, my boyfriend, Alan, his two brothers Justin and Andy, and I left Alan’s house around 9:00 p.m. to go back to my house. When we first walked outside, I remember my sister sliding down the driveway and saying, “Whoa! It’s so slippery!” I then noticed that it was freezing raining pretty hard, so we all ran into Alan’s 4x4 and he started driving. I have a bad habit of not putting on my seatbelt when I am in the car with friends, so this time I did not think much of not putting on my seatbelt. As we were driving, the freezing rain pelted the car and made small clicking noises as it hit. The music was turned up really loud, and we were all singing along to it. While we were driving, we slid a couple of times and had a hard time braking because of the freezing rain but we did not think it was that big of a deal. It took at least fifteen minutes to get to Cherry Hill, which is the main road my house is by, and I remember how hard it was to stop at the red light.
As we turned onto Lotz at the red light, I turned to talk to Andy and Justin, who were also in the backseat with me. Alan and Amy were in the front seats and they were both still singing along to the music. None of us were really paying attention to how fast we were going until I looked up and saw the street sign. By then I noticed that we were going too fast to be able to stop in time. As Alan pressed the brakes to turn, the car slid and the brakes did not work because of the ice on the ground and because of how fast we were going, and the car only turned halfway before we crashed into a telephone pole. A split second before we crashed, I remembered I did not have my seatbelt on, and my first response was to grab onto the seat in front of me. The sound of the car hitting the telephone pole was the loudest sound of metal crunching I have ever heard in my life. It sounded like someone had taken a giant hammer and was smashing the front of the car with it.
As we turned onto Lotz at the red light, I turned to talk to Andy and Justin, who were also in the backseat with me. Alan and Amy were in the front seats and they were both still singing along to the music. None of us were really paying attention to how fast we were going until I looked up and saw the street sign. By then I noticed that we were going too fast to be able to stop in time. As Alan pressed the brakes to turn, the car slid and the brakes did not work because of the ice on the ground and because of how fast we were going, and the car only turned halfway before we crashed into a telephone pole. A split second before we crashed, I remembered I did not have my seatbelt on, and my first response was to grab onto the seat in front of me. The sound of the car hitting the telephone pole was the loudest sound of metal crunching I have ever heard in my life. It sounded like someone had taken a giant hammer and was smashing the front of the car with it.
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